Spirit Guides: If you knew today was your last day on Earth, what would do? Would you go to work? Would you call a long lost friend to catch up? Would you allow yourself to go sit on the beach and watch the wonders of the world one more time? What would you do if you knew today was your last day?
The point here is to encourage you to live your life like every day is your last day. What are the things you want to do, but are not doing—the things you are putting off until they fit into your schedule? Here is what we have to say, fit them into your schedule now! Why bother with the grind, the things you have to do, if you are not also doing the things you enjoy doing? Live your life like today is your last day. Tell people how much you love them, take a nap, have dessert instead of dinner. Throw caution to the wind and live it up!
It is so easy to look at someone and feel like you know what they need
to make their lives better. Is this judgment? Is it possible to look
at someone and not see their flaws—the things that we think they should change?
Spirit Guides: Not judging others is a huge part of unconditional love. If you loved someone unconditionally, if you were able to let them be just who they are and just where they are on their life path, there would be no judgment. We ask you: why it is important to you to see others make the changes that you feel they need to make? Could you be looking at them the way you do yourself? Could you be not feeling good enough about where you are on your journey?
How would you feel if we told you that you are perfect exactly as you are? What if we said that if you did not change or accomplish one more thing in this life, you are perfect? This is true; spirit knows that you are perfect. If you were to die today, spirit would meet you on the other side and say “You are perfect. You are loved unconditionally. You are completely accepted and supported.”
We challenge you to start looking at yourself and others as perfect. Knowing that you are perfect just as you are does not mean you will stop doing things you like and want to do. It does not mean you will lose your drive to create. Knowing and accepting that you are perfect will make the road smoother, and with fewer potholes to fall into or maneuver around. Allowing yourself to accept that you are perfect, just as you are, is the best gift you can give yourself.
It is so easy to get caught up and frustrated with what is going on in our lives. I am wondering how to be o.k. in the moment with whatever is happening, especially if it seems like a bad situation.
Spirit Guides: What if you decided every situation was a good situation? What would life be like? We would like to tell you that there are no “bad” situations—all things that happen are designed to teach and help you grow. All situations have benefits or positive effects, though it may take a while for those to be apparent.
What if you decided to not let these “bad” situations take you to an emotional level, and instead viewed the encounter more like it was happening to someone else instead of you? Could you see more easily what the experience would teach or bring to you?
The question we hear you ask is how: “How do I not get emotionally involved in my own life?” The answer is simply decide not to get emotionally caught. The more neutral you are to what is going on, the easier and more quickly you will learn what you need to learn. If you are neutral instead of emotional it is easier to see what steps to take and in what order to take them to get through the “bad” situation with ease. When you move into the place of freaking out, try to remind yourself to breath, calm down and look at the situation with a new set of eyes—eyes that see clearly the entire picture.
I keep getting the message for myself and others through their readings to enjoy the ride. It seems we get so caught up in getting the tasks on the “To-Do” list done that we don’t enjoy the process. Instead, we put our heads down and push until we get there. I would like my guides to share what is so important about the journey itself.
Spirit Guides: What is the point of having a human body if you don’t experience your experiences? Life is not about how much you accomplish, but what you learn along the way. If you are not paying attention to the things along your path, how can you learn from them? Each life experience is set up for you to learn and teach multiple lessons—it is about the entire experience, not just getting it done.
Take a simple trip to the grocery store for example. If you take time to look around on the drive there, you will see the wonders of nature and man along the way—you will be reminded of how much has been created already and how easy it is to create. If you only pay attention to what is on your grocery list, you will miss the new wonderful foods available to you. You might even miss finding a new favorite ice cream! Who would want to miss that experience? If you don’t at least say “hi” to the others you meet, you will miss out on the experience of human interactions, and you might even miss out on meeting your new best friend. Who would want to miss that? We challenge you to slow down a little and come out of your head—stopping that continual processing of the next step—see what you find along your way. We promise it will be worth it.
Last nights Intuitive and Spiritual Development Class that I teach was about allowing yourself to receive. I would like to share some of the things we looked at with you. The big questions were:
Do you allow yourself to receive?
Where might you have blocks keeping your from receiving the things you want or ask for?
Do you have programming that says, if someone gives you something you will have to pay for it somehow? I have some of that programming. I learned as a child that a gift was hardly ever a gift, it came with an expectation. I would hear things like, I bought you a new dress and you did do an extra chore around this house to show your gratitude. When you experience that kind of gift giving, you stop or slow down allowing yourself to receive. Not just dresses, but that other things in life you want like love, friends, money or just about anything else. If you take a minute to think that maybe, just maybe, you are blocking the things you want and are asking for, and look to see how and why you are blocking the, you might be surprised at what you find. Then, you can decide to stop blocking and start receiving.
The best two ways I have found to find these blocks is by sitting quietly, look at myself with the help of my spiritual support group to get answers or take the easy way, let someone else do it. In class we trade readings with each other to find the blocks we can’t see ourselves. Find an intuitive you trust and let that person give you a reading to open the doors to allow yourself to receive.
Something else you might want to look at is if you are open to the universe providing what you want from any where it needs to come from, or are you only allowing yourself to receive from one source? My mantra for receiving is this: Thank you that the things I want and need are coming to me with ease and grace, with no strings attached, from any source that serves my highest and best interest.
I realized that I grew up being told and shown that life was hard, shown that any good thing takes hard, hard work. As my life has gone on I have noticed that there are people who don’t belief that life is hard and good things come to them easily and effortlessly.
I can’t wait to see what my guides have to say…
Spirit Guides: Life does not have to be hard, it is a choice. It is up to each individual to decide if life is going to be hard or easy and to decide what hard and easy means to them personally. Are you choosing to see the glass half full or half empty? If you find that your life is hard and that your glass is always half empty, would you like to change it? Would you like your life to be easy and plentiful? Here are some tips on how to make the shift to easy:
Decide you want to shift.
Decide you believe a shift is possible, if you don’t really believe it, pretend!
Ask your spiritual support group to support you by helping you see the easy and the plentiful in everything.
Use your grounding cord to stay grounded and present and release old beliefs about life being hard.
Try to make a conscious effort to shift with the above tips everyday for at least a week and see what great things happen for you!
Note from Lexa: You can learn how to create and use an energetic grounding cord along with other great tools for creating your life the way you want it in my Finding Peace & Harmony guided meditation CD or downloadable MP3.
When I sat down to write my Tuesday Night Intuitive and Spiritual Development Class, I had my guides give me some information on forgiveness that I would like to share with you, they posed a few questions for me to ask the class and I expounded:
What if you decide to change your view of the people who hurt you the most in two ways? (This could help you to forgive them…)
What if you set up that relationship? What if you asked them to treat you the way you did so you could learn the lessons you needed to learn? I set up a
Dad who was emotionally unavailable. He also provided the minimum
amount of financial assistance he could get away. Why did I pick a Dad
like this? So that I could learn to be a responsible person on a different level than I ever have. So that I could learn to validate myself on a different level than I ever have. For me at this point, I am glad he was selfless enough to do what he did for me.
What if you were aware of what this person going through when they were in your life? My Dad was so wounded and unloved as a child that he had nothing to draw from to give to me and it was all he could do to survive himself. What
will change for you as you look at where the other person was coming
from? For me, at this point, I am pleased that he was at least able to
provide me with a physical body to learn my lessons through.
What the class did was to allow me to guide them through moving the energy off of the relationship and look to see the answers to the above questions. It gave healing to everyone and has already made a significant difference in their area of forgiveness to themselves and others. I encourage you to look at the same questions and see if you don’t find the answers helpful to you!
I have been having a few clients who are trying very hard to help their friends and families change. The people say they want help, call my clients to vent (about the same problem) on a regular basis, yet do not seem to be changing at all. The guidance my guides give continues to be consistent and solid on how to handle people we want to heal, change and help grow.
Spirit Guides: It is nearly impossible to change someone else. The only way a person makes a change is if they are ready and willing. The best thing you can do is to decide to support them when they are ready to change and to step back and give them room to decide to change. This could take years in some cases, but we find that the harder you push, the more resistance the other person has to changing and the longer it takes. We also find that if you are putting your energy into getting someone else to change, you are not changing and growing yourself. You are staying stuck with them. Instead of pushing, you can set an example. Allow yourself to grow and change, working on your own path and opening yourself up to new heights, raising your vibration. As you raise your vibration others feel how good it feels to be around you and start to raise theirs to match you. We have heard Lexa use this analogy and we like it:
If you spend time in a room with an Eeyore, the donkey from Winnie the Pooh who always has a bad day and everything always goes wrong for, you will start to feel sad, depressed and weighed down. If you spend time in a room with someone who is happy and upbeat, you will start to feel happy and upbeat if you don’t already. Eeyore’s energy is negative; it takes you to a lower vibration energetically. Fun and happy is a positive and takes you to a higher energetic vibration. The higher you vibrate the better you feel.
If you can decide to start letting go of changing others and work on your own happiness, you will be giving them an amazing healing simply by setting that example.
I was thinking this morning about all the things I am waiting to do. I am waiting to have lunch with a group of my friends until my schedule clears up and I have an opening. Why is it I don’t just schedule that lunch? Why do I let what I feel my responsibilities of my career take over my life? I am waiting to take my husband to Vegas to see the Blue Man group once our kids are out of college and self sufficient. What if we die tomorrow and he never gets to see the group he wants to see, what would be the point if we don’t have fun along the way? We waited to buy a new couch until the kids moved out, three boys and their friends are hard on a couch. We love the couch and there is really no reason we could not have had new one earlier and then got a new one after the kids moved out. How many of you are waiting to invite friends over until you have new carpet? Then what, will you wait for new appliances? Is new carpet or appliances more important than spending time with friends or family? So, what are you waiting for, give to yourself and allow for the stuff you want to do before you don’t have any time left to do it.
Funny how this information comes to me, I was in the bathroom this morning wondering what topic to ask or channel about when I heard that voice in my head say, ask how to stay in control and not freak out in a crisis or uncomfortable situation.
Let’s see what they have to say…
Spirit Guides: Anytime humans are faced with a crisis or uncomfortable situation, something like a car wreck, a loved one getting hurt, losing their job, or even having someone say really mean things it can be hard to stay neutral and grounded. By neutral we mean not reacting without thinking, not jumping in the car to go to the hospital without your shoes on or not yelling at the person saying the mean things. By not being grounded when mean, your spirit not staying in your body. When someone goes into shock, their spirit leaves their body, that it why so many people report being above their body and seeing them in the wreck. The spirit has left the body to disconnect from the situation. It is much easier to handle the situation when you are connected to and part of the body. When the body, mind and spirit are all working together, you get better results.
There are two simple things to do in any kind of situation:
Take a couple of slow deep breaths. This slows down your adrenalin and moves the fear out of your mind making it easier to access the situation.
Call for your spiritual support group to help.
Taking time to work on keeping you grounded and neutral in all situations through meditation and using the two steps above will help your entire life move with more ease and grace and help you remember to breath and call for help when you encounter a crisis.
Note from Lexa: My Finding Peace & Harmony CD has a guided meditation that teaches how to ground and stay grounded as well as how to become more neutral to the situations in your life.
