Lexa Finley

It is a beautiful Thanksgiving morning. My family and I are at our sons home in San Diego celebrating Thanksgiving. I am assuming that my guides want to talk about being thankful, let’s see if I am right…

Spirit Guides: You are on the right track. We want to talk about knowing what to be thankful for. Today would be a great day to take stock in looking at what you have created in your life to be thankful for. Not just the “good” stuff that stands out like having enough money, but also look at the things that you have created that you don’t feel grateful for. Some examples: A friendship that annoys you, a friend that does things that bug you and make you look at yourself to see if you do the same things. A child that wakes you up 5 times a night, so that you can find how much strength you have to continue to share love with that child even when you are tired and frustrated.  People who you think let you down, that frustrate you enough that you have to go within and talk to spirit to find peace. There is nothing in your life that you should not be thankful for, everything is created to help you learn and grow. So go ahead and add all the things to your list of gratitude that you thought were problems. And be especially grateful knowing that once you learn those hard lessons, you don’t have to learn them again.

4:00 p.m.

In a reading I did today, the client was frustrated and angry with a family member the she loves. The message came through that this person is her biggest lesson in forgiveness. That she does not have to like this person or choose to spend time with them, she just has to forgive and accept them. I asked my Spirit Guides for more information.

Spirit Guides:  Unconditional love and liking someone are two totally different things. Unconditional loves means accepting people just as they are and where they are in their life. You may know someone that you find crass and uncomfortable to be around. You might be able to see clearly what they need to change to make them a better person. Seeing them as crass is a judgment, seeing that they need to change to be a better person is a judgment. Your role as spirit is not to judge, to allow them to be who and what they are. This acceptance is loving unconditionally. You don’t have to enjoy being around the person, or like the person, you just have to allow them to be themselves. If this person is a family member, there is no rule that says you have to spend time with them.

We have a question for you; Do you allow you to be you? Do you accept yourself just as you are or do you keep pushing? Continued growth is what you are doing on earth, but you can grow and mature all the while, being o.k. with who you are at this very moment. Not too young or old, not to judgmental or selfish, just be o.k. with you as you are. Your growth will not stop, it will become easier because you will not be fighting against parts of yourself you do approve of.

2:36 p.m.

It is a beautiful, windy day in Southern California, I feel great and can’t wait to hear what my guides have to say, so I sit quietly with my eyes closed and ask the big question, what do you guys want to talk about today?

Spirit Guides: Today we want to talk about “Doing it right”. So many spirits are looking for the right way to learn their spiritual lessons.  The great news for everyone is that there is not a right or wrong way to be spiritual. As you set about learning your lessons you have many choices to choose from for each individual lesson.  Just as there are many different tools to choose from to dig a hole, whichever tool you choose, will work, it is just a different approach to the same thing. When you have new opportunities in front of you, like you have three different choices for a new job, there is no right or wrong. You will learn the same lessons you set out to do differently through all the jobs. Some people get so worried about making the wrong choice, that they make no choice at all, DON’T let this happen to you, pick a direction and go! The right choice is going forward, it does not matter which path you pick, just pick one and know that you are getting what you need, that you cannot make a wrong choice.

Restraint 3:00 p.m.

I am happy to report that now that I am doing these guided writings on a semi regular basis, my Spirit Guides have stopped waking me up in the middle of the night. It is so much easier to live our lives if we follow spirits lead and don’t make them push us. It only took me 48 year to wrap my brain around that, and even still I question them sometimes. I am hoping to get to a point where I stop questioning and just do!

I had several topics on my mind today, but they say no. So I ask, “What is today’s topic? And I sit quietly and wait for the answer to come through…

Spirit Guides: Today’s topic is restraint. (Here I go thinking great, another lesson I haven’t figured out yet, I am going to let that go down my grounding cord so I can go on…)  Restraint is a very important habit to develop. Allowing yourself to have the awareness of where to keep your mouth shut and where to open it is a very important part of the human process. It is true that you cannot make someone feel bad by what you say. But you can be sensitive to things they are not yet ready to see or learn about themselves even if you see clearly that they need to learn it. This does not mean not to stand up for yourself, do let people know when they cross boundaries with you. It means you need to get clarity within yourself if someone is ready to hear something about themselves or not. For example: You have a friend that always talks to loud no matter where you are, even at the movies and you want to tell them to tone down their voice. This may be a person who has a very hard time allowing themselves to talk at all (whether it looks like it on the surface or not to you) and the only way they can get words out is by force which makes their  voice loud. If you tell them they have to be quiet when they talk, it may shut them down completely. When you have a issue with someone’s behavior, take a moment to ask your inner self, or your spirit guides theses questions:

1. Is this person ready to hear what I want to tell them?
2. What can I do to be able to allow this behavior without it bothering me?

The gift for you if you cannot share, is raising your capacity to be all loving and allow them to be who they are without being upset.

9:25 a.m.

I had the opportunity to do a reading for a wonderful spirit that was doing amazing work for human kind and my guides showed me that he is clearly on his path, doing even more than he signed up for. However, he felt he was not doing enough and defiantly not doing it quickly enough. It was very frustrating for this man to feel so stuck  I wondered how many other people were frustrated and did not feel they were “doing what they intended to do” (walking the path they choose) when they took a human body.  So I asked my guides:

“How can we know for sure that we are doing what we set out to do?”
Spirit Guides: The first thing we want you to remember is that you cannot do this thing called life wrong. You signed up to learn certain lessons, and if you don’t get them this life time, you can get them in another time or place. There is no judgment from Spirit if you learn now or you learn later. Your Spiritual Support Group will continue to put opportunities in front of you to do what you need to do. What you need to do is look at all the opportunities provided and decide if they are what you need to do. For example, you are offered a new job from out of the blue, you were not looking for a new job you are happy where you are, and you have great friends, benefits and hours. Why then did you receive a new job opportunity? The new job offers you opportunities for emotional and spiritual growth that you were not getting where you were. Take a few minutes to sit quietly and ask some questions about the new opportunity, “Will this new job serve my highest and best interest?” “Will this new job serve my families highest and best interest?”  “What do I need to know to help me make the decision to take this job?”  Opportunities presented in any shape or form, should be examined, they are not accidentally given to you.

To really know if you are on your path and doing what you signed up to do, ASK!

Sit quietly, close your eyes and invite your Spiritual Support Group to talk with you.

Ask them what it is you decided to do here on earth, ask them if you are on the right track, ask them what you can do to get on the right track if you are not, or to speed up your growth if that is what you are looking to do. Your Spiritual Support Group is with you for exactly that reason, to support you! Let them, ask them for help and advice!

12:25 p.m.

I have taken a moment to sit quietly with my eyes closed and connect with my guides, I ask what today’s topic is and my my guides say today’s topic is taking time to be with family and friends. They will take it from here.

Spirit Guides:  We want to remind you that one of the main reasons you choose as a spirit to use a human body to get learn your lessons is to be around other humans. If you choose to spend your time alone or with only a few select people, you will not learn your lessons as quickly as if you spend time with many, One of the main reasons humans don’t interact with larger number of people is because it can be emotionally hard. Dealing with others brings up all kinds of fears and frustrations.

For example: Meeting new people can bring up the fear: what if they don’t like me? Having that fear brought up to the surface is awesome, it gives you an opportunity to look at why you feel like someone would not like you, and let that belief go. It will help you get to a higher place of unconditional love.

Another example is people who frustrate you. Maybe they are always late or say or do weird things, this gives you a chance to look inward to see why what they do is bugging you and why you are judging instead of accepting them. As you look inward to find the reasons, you will be able to let them go and be more accepting and loving.

Hence, being around others opens you to see things you need to grow.

12:16 p.m. I am sure that everyone has the kind of spiritual support group that they need. I hope you can take a minute and check in to see what your group is.

I have made a lot on changes in my life around work/career because I was guided to do so by my Spiritual Support Group, (my spirit guides) They made it very clear that it was time to let go of my gift basket company and go full throttle with readings, teaching, and  guided meditation CD’s. I agreed to give up the gift basket company on their promise of financial support. Well, it looks like my idea of financial support and my Spirit Guides are different. I have been a little miffed that the money I think I need to go further with advertising and mass producing the CD’s has not come in. I decided to have a talk with my Spirit Guides to find out what is going on.

My question: Where’s that support you promised?

Spirit Guides: You are so supported it is not even funny, you have set up a phenomenal support group that we have shown you, you have a guide for marketing, legal, advertising, writing, and every other area you need a guide for, even one that makes you take time for yourself. There is a grand design for the difference you and the others working with you are making in the world, and the design has many players and many lives’s to reach. If you had the money to do the things you want you would put your energy into that instead of doing what you need to do right now. The time you think you have to get stuff done now, is actually time for you to rest and get ready for the ride of your life. The world is shifting into a new level of spirituality and everyone is starting to feel the change. Some feel it as uncomfortable, things may not be going as well as they would like and some find they can be peaceful. You are finding the peace, it is not stagnation, it is a time for you to be quiet and go within. Go put your feet in the ocean, you have seen that many times in readings for others and knew it was for you too. Give yourself permission to do nothing and know that you are supported to the fullest for your highest and best interest!

8:41 a.m.

I am still pondering on yesterday’s question, what can I give life today? And I start to wonder, what is my purpose? Anybody else ever wonder that? So I pose this question to my spirit guides, how do we know what our purpose is?

Spirit Guides: We thought you would never ask. So many people make finding their purpose so hard, it becomes their lives quest. The answer is simple. All human beings purpose is to work towards finding unconditional love for yourself and others and share that love along the way! Unconditional love means NO judgment of anyone, yourself, family, friends, and strangers. It is so easy to look at someone’s life and think, he should get a job, she should lose some weight, that couple should be nicer to each other. Those are all judgments, it means you are not accepting people for who they are and where they are along their path to unconditional love, which means you probably judge yourself and don’t accept you for who you are. If you were “perfect” and had achieved unconditional love, your spirit would not need to me in a human body. The best thing you can do when you have those judgments about others and yourself is to say to yourself, they/I am learning what they/I need to learn and are where they/I need to be with their/my growth.

If you have signed up for a bigger purpose in this life through loving unconditionally that purpose will surface, you will know beyond a shadow of a doubt what your next step is.

You cal always sit down close your eyes and invite your spirit guides in to talk about your life and where it is going!

10:30 a.m.

I LOVE how spirit works. Last night I was reading my favorite book: You are the Answer by Michael Tamura and came across a phrase that really resounded with me. Michael says our spiritual growth will rocket when we stop asking, what can life give me today? and start asking, “WHAT CAN I GIVE LIFE TODAY?”

I figured it would be the topic for today’s guided writing. What I did not know is that it was preparing me to help someone I dearly love. I have changed the names (to protect the innocent).

This email was the first one waiting for me this  morning:

I don’t know where the word “blog” came from, but you have a very nice “BLOG”! I’m definitely enjoying your daily word, but I feel like the things you are relating are things I’ve already got! Is there something wrong with me for not having any ill feelings about my life? I don’t know if its because David has grown and gone, or maybe because I’ve had such traumatic  experiences in the past nothing can seem to “get me” anymore. (Thank you Jesus!) Sitting here writing this to you, the only negativity I sense is I feel stuck, like my life is on hold or something. I’m not thinking that’s a bad thing, maybe just a time for healing. I’m at the highest level of peacefulness I think I’ve ever experienced. Do you think I’m in denial or should I just sit back and wait for my life to unfold……I love ya, and so look forward to reading your daily messages. xoxo

This is the reply I sent to her:

Spirit says: Yes, you have found peace and it came through some very hard lessons, great job! Under the peace which you can always have is fear. Fear that if you try something new it will be sabotaged, it won’t be, you got the wake up call you needed, it won’t happen again. It is time to ask “WHAT CAN I GIVE LIFE TODAY?”  As you ask this and mean it, you will be able to get unstuck; spirit will guide you to help yourself and others in ways you have not even dreamed possible. Dear sweet Katie, you can do anything, you are a powerful woman, and you KNOW that you are here to make a difference. Please give yourself permission to start, we love and support you, you are never alone! We ask you, “WHAT CAN YOU GIVE LIFE TODAY

Lexa: So I ask myself and everyone else, WHAT CAN WE GIVE LIFE TODAY?

8:56 p.m

I had the opportunity to do 3 readings today and the same message came through for all the three, STOP WORRYING, MOVE TO GRATITUDE. Here is what my Spirit Guides have to say…

Spirit Guides: Worry is very negative, the more you worry, the more you worry. Worry brings you and everyone around you down! Lower and lower. When you start to worry, say THANK YOU instead. If you worry about money, say or think, thank you that I have plenty of money. If you worry about your health, say or think, thank you that I am healthy. If you worry about your children or family, say or think, thank you that my family is supported, thank you that my family is healthy and safe. Worry can actually help create the bad things you worry about to happen. The more gratitude you live in,(being thankful) helps create good things to happen. The minute worry creeps in change it to gratitude!