Lexa Finley

So many people come to me to find out what their purpose is. I find that people have many purposes, but the number one answer I get for almost everyone one is that one of their purposes is to become unconditional love, to come to a place where they love themselves and others unconditionally.

Unconditional loves means:

• Being o.k. with everything that is going on
• Not being prejudice
• Not judging the way a situation is handled
• Not having expectations (at all)
• Not holding a grudge
• Not withholding forgiveness,
• Not needing to forgive
• Not thinking you know what is best for others

This does not mean that it is not important to have your needs met. We still have to do things to have our needs met, we simply need to come at it from a place of love and acceptance for ourselves and others. What if every situation that comes up today, you decide to see it as exactly what you are others need at this time? Seeing the world this way can’t help but move you to higher place of unconditional love.

I heard someone ask, “how much of your life is habit?” When I think of a habit I think of things like cigarette smoking or nail biting. This person made me think, “How much of my life is habit?”. How much of my time do I spend doing things without even thinking or, more importantly, being present and aware of what I am doing?

An example is feeding my dogs. I do it on auto pilot sometimes and forget how important it is to them that I do it and how fun it is for me to watch them eat. How much am I missing when I do things out of habit instead of with purpose? If I have a crisis come up, do I handle it out of habit because that worked before, when I should really be seeing each situation for what it is and deciding in the present how to handle it? When I thought about this for myself, I really did not like seeing how much I do out of habit. Now, I plan on changing to being present. Want to join me?

I see so many people (including myself sometimes) who are waiting for the “thing” to happen that will make their life better—be it a relationship, money, better health or whatever. They have decided that until this “thing” happens, they can’t be completely happy. Of course, I would like my guides to help here.

Spirit Guides: We see a lot of people who put their happiness on hold, while they wait for it to come to them or try to find it. Could it be that the hunt for the happy life has taken over and clouded you being able to see how great your life is right now? Could it be that you are so focused on that thing that you are not allowing it to come?  What if you chose to decide that you are happy now, and that everything is exactly as it should be?

If your car was stuck in the mud, would it do any good to keep pressing the gas and digging in deeper, or would it be more effective to decide to enjoy some time not going anywhere, wait for the mud to dry and drive the car once the mud dried? We find that people do this with their lives. They don’t let the situation they are in be complete before they push for the next big thing. Can you decide to be content where you are? If you can, the thing you’re looking for might show up right before your eyes.

How good would it feel to know that every person who you came in contact with loved you? How good does it feel to have a complete stranger say, “You look great today?” Does that put a little skip in your step? How can you give others a little skip in their step?

How about deciding to give everyone you see, including the kid who bags your groceries, a compliment? If you are looking to tell someone something nice, you are looking at the good, instead of judging the bad. You are instantly in a higher vibrational state when looking at the good. Receiving a compliment also takes you to a higher vibrational state or simply put, makes you feel good. By giving out one compliment you can change the entire day, or even the life, of someone else. Who knows, you might just give love to someone who was ready to end it all…

During readings lately my Spirit Guides have suggested affirmations to people. I wonder how it helps us to have affirmations.

Spirit Guides: Using an affirmation is a way to reprogram your brain. For someone who has been told or programmed to believe that they are not loveable, saying to themselves on a regular basis, “I am loveable,” will help them rewrite what their brain bought into. It will help them bring back the truth that they are loveable. If you have something that you believe about yourself, but you really know is untrue, using an affirmation can help you get back to the truth of who you really are.

Here is a list of a few affirmations to try:

• I am loveable.
• I am creative.
• I am smart.
• I am special.
• I deserve abundance.
• I am fearless.
• Life is easy.
• I am supported.
• I love life.

Using any, or all, of these simple three word affirmations can be life changing. Why not try a few and see?

I have had a several friends talk to me about big decisions they have to make and turn to my Spirit Guides for advice.  The message for them has been that you don’t have to decide right now, wait a few days, try to stop analyzing the situation, and see what comes to you. I wonder what my guides have to say…

Spirit Guides: Lexa, this is such a big message for everyone. So many times people jump to a decision through their emotions that they later wish they had taken time to sit with it. Being in an emotional state about something can cloud your judgment. When you are too close to a situation it can be hard to see all the elements at play. Imagine being so close to an animal that all you see is one eye. You don’t know what kind of animal it is and you do not know if you are safe or not. If you pull back a little to let its entire face come into view, you have a much better picture of what you are looking at. If it is a squirrel, you are probably safe and don’t need to protect yourself, but if it is a bear, that is a different story. The point here is to pull back a little from the situation to be able to see the entire thing for what it really is. Giving yourself a little time to let the emotions die down and get yourself to a place of some neutrality will help you see the big picture. Then, you will likely find that you know exactly what to do.

How many times have you said yes to doing something you did not want to do? I would like my guides to share how to say no.

Spirit Guides: If you said yes to every single thing people asked you to do, would you even have time to get everything done? The question we would like to pose is this:

Are you saying yes because you want to or because you feel you should? Is the yes coming out of guilt? What would happen if you said no when you did not want to do something? How hard would that be? What would be the worst case scenario—perhaps that people would get mad at you? They may or may not get mad, but you will surely be mad at yourself. What if you decide to say, “I will think about it and see if what you are asking can fit into my schedule before you give an automatic yes?” That would give you time to have a talk with yourself about doing things because you want to and you have time and not doing things because you feel you should. Deciding to say no is the easy part—the hard part is actually saying it. Challenge yourself to say no and stick to it. If you do not do the thing the person is asking you to, rest assured, they will find another way to get it done.

I find that many many people, including myself, have expectations of others. We expect them to behave a certain way, or we might expect them to have a certain job or achieve a higher level of living than they themselves expect. We might even expect them to stop having addictions. Why do we do this? Why can’t we just let them be themselves?

Spirit Guides: Every human being has his or her own path to tackle. They have set up their own issues to overcome. They have made goals to reach a certain level of unconditional love this lifetime. Spirit accepts them whether they reach their goals or they don’t.

We say to each of you: It does not matter on a spiritual level how much you accomplish. You have forever to reach that goal. So, would it make sense for you to say that when you look at other?,

Ask yourself if you are really using them to reflect where you are in your life and never allowing yourself to be good enough? What would if feel like to say that just for today you were going to be perfectly o.k. with where you were in your life and be perfectly o.k. with were everyone else was? Would the day be less stressful and more fulfilling? Try it out and see what you think. If it works for one day, try two, then three, then ten, then…

I would like to know: what can you do if you feel stuck and/or that your life is not going like you want it to?

Spirit Guides: We know that all humans at some time or another are not happy with the situations they are in. What we want to share with you is that the more you resist what is going on, the harder it is to get through. If you make the decision to stop resisting, stop being frustrated and just allow yourself to experience what you are going through as a piece of your journey, you will get through it more quickly and with more ease. This of course does not mean to quit trying to move on, it simply means to allow yourself to be o.k. with what you are going through as you go through it.

Here is an example: Most people taking a long trip enjoy driving in good weather. If it rains on your entire trip, you can choose to be o.k. with the weather or you can fuss, complain and be frustrated the entire time, even though you can’t change a thing. Why put all that negative energy into being unhappy, wouldn’t it be easier to just be o.k. with what is going on? Wouldn’t your life be easier if you decided to be o.k. with what is going on in it?

I want to look a little bit more at the message from my Spirit Guides to live today like it is your last day.  Since we still have to provide for ourselves and our families, since today is not really our last day, how do we find the balance in providing and throwing caution to the wind to live it up?

Spirit Guides: We love that you are looking for balance. That was really the point in that earlier guided writing. So many people take life so seriously, we would love to see them enjoy it more. By incorporating living each day like it is your last into your workload, it will help bring the fun back. Instead of putting your head down and moving with the grind, you will be able to keep your head up, see the joy you might have been missing and bring some of your dreams to fruition. WHY NOT ENJOY YOUR LIFE? Truth is, this could be your last day. Get the most out of it no matter where you are, who you are with or what you are doing. Turn work into play!