Lexa Finley

My dumplings were a hit; I think my family liked them better than the stew. It is so nice to sit down to a leisurely family meal every now and then. It seems like it gets harder and harder to plan a meal around everyone’s schedules.

I tend to feel that I am always pushing myself to be better, to do better, and to do more. And then I am frustrated when I don’t get it all done. My guides keep saying be o.k. with who you are now. Be o.k. with where you are now. I wonder if I was o.k. with whom and where I am at this moment, what would motivate me to move forward. How would I spend my time, how would I pay my bills, how would I make a difference to others?

Spirit Guides: Being o.k. with where you are now really means accepting yourself for who you are, not who you think you want to be. This does not mean you will not continue to have goals and ideas of things to create and people to spend time with, it simply means you will be more content doing it. Being in the moment, enjoying it, treasuring it, no matter how big or small the occurrence is the most important part of the human experience. If you are not in the moment, but thinking and planning out your next steps, you cannot get the most out of the experience you are in. Once you accept that you are good enough right now, believe it or not, it will make it even easier to reach the goals and dreams you are after. Take an inventory of your day, was it nice or are you just glad it is over? Ask yourself what you can do to enjoy your day even more; the more you enjoy it the easier it is to be in the moment, to be o.k. with whom and what you are.

It is cold and rainy here is sunny southern California. I have a big pot of beef stew on the stove smelling great while I let my guides give us some new info…  (I am going to try my hand at dumplings on top of the stew when I am finished here.)

At one time or another everyone feels let down by people in their lives.  I started thinking that we can’t be let down if we don’t have expectations of them. However, how the heck do we keep from having expectations?

Spirit Guides: You are on the right track here. There are times when you need other people to help you in your life, and quite often, humans do not ask for help. They expect the people in their lives to know what they need and expect them to meet their needs. So for starters, let people know when you do have expectations or they will fail and you will be hurt.

When you do have an expectation that is not serving you, one thing to do is to look at what need you have that is not being met and why you think you need this need met through a particular person. As you look at this need, you may start to realize that this is something you already hold within you and may find you don’t need outside help at all.

Being able to let go of expectations and accept people the exact way they are at the exact moment is possible. You will have a hard time letting go of your expectations of others if you think or say things like, “I would never treat them that way,” or “My friend Suzy would never act like that.” With thought like this you have moved into comparing and judging. Letting judgment go, will help you let the expectation go. Whenever you have an expectation, you can tell yourself that you are deciding not to have any expectations for this person and if they do something more than the normal, see it as a gift.  You can use your grounding cord to send the expectation down, or put the expectation in a rose and destroy the rose. Making the conscious decision to let the expectation go is the first step that will lead into less and less expectations and away from further disappointments.

It is Tuesday morning and I did not do a guided writing yesterday because I was beat. We spent the weekend replacing a leaky water heater and pulling down wet drywall in both the garage and the interior of our home. It makes me wonder why we have to go through that kind of crap, are there accidents are do things like that happen on purpose?

Spirit Guides: As we have said before, every experience teaches lessons that you need to learn. Did spirit decide to have your water heater give out? No, but it did roll into a great lesson. Even though this seemed like a bad thing, is it really? What good came out of it? Did you notice who stepped up to help you? Did you notice how much time you and your husband got to spend together? Did you notice how much more physical activity you got than you would have? (I am still noticing that, my body still hurts) Did you notice that the water heater is safer and more efficient, wasting less of your natural resources? Did you notice that the money you spent helped kick up the economy a little? Did you notice that even when you thought you could not do one more thing that you found the strength to keep going? ANYTIME any thing bad happens, decide to see the good in it and you will feel better about it.

It was clear to me that my Spirit Guides had their own agenda today, so I did not ask a question, I just let them speak through me. I am always surprised by what comes through my fingers and by how loud acrylic nails are as they click on the keyboard!

Spirit Guides:

We would like to help you define what direction to take with your life. Ponder these questions:

• If you could do anything you wanted for work, what would it be?
• If you could do anything at all, what would it be?
• What dream do you have that hovers in the back of your mind?
• What topics to you love to discuss?
• What is the most important thing in your life?

As you think about your answers to these questions, you might start to see a pattern. Do some or all of the answers point you in the same direction? When there is something in your life that you are passionate about, it is probably because it is something you should be doing. Even if it is something out of the norm like being a racecar driver. As a soul, before you got to earth, you set up lessons to learn, lessons to teach and things to experience just because with a human body you could experience them. These things that you really want to do, but have not, will help you do the things you set up to do much more easily. If you would make the decision to be open to doing what calls you, and take a few steps to explore how, it can happen and you will love it! You hold the power to change your life to move to doing what calls you. Anytime you are ready, just say so, your spiritual support group is ready and waiting to travel with you on a new journey.

It is Monday morning and I had a great weekend. I went to see It’s Complicated, twice! Once with my husband and once by myself. SOOOO funny! I keep hearing people say that we create   our own reality. If that is true, there are some things I would like to un-create and some other things I would like to create that I have not managed to do yet. I am hoping my spirit guides will shine some light on this.

Spirit Guides:  You do create your own reality. HOWEVER, you don’t create quite as much in the physical moment as you might think.  Before you take a human body, you decide with the help of your spiritual council, (your spiritual group that helps you choose your life plan) what you want to learn once your spirit joins a human body. Orchestrating these lessons is no easy task. You and your council decide who the “players” will be in your life plan. The players, or people you will work with have to choose to be on board, and your lessons have to fit their lessons. The plans you make with other souls we call agreements. Just because you have an agreement with someone before you get to earth, does not mean you will follow through with all of them. In most cases you have the freedom to choose not to spend time with a particular person who was signed up to help you with your lessons. You always have the right to look at your agreements with others and let them go or change them. (Lexa you teach a class on this and read these agreements for others, you may want to re-examine this for yourself.) You can meditate to get your own answers or get a reading with a spiritual intuitive that connects with your spiritual agreements.

So yes, you do create your own reality, and if you want to change it, you might look at what agreements you made before you got to earth that are keeping you where you feel stuck, or keeping you from creating what you think you want now. After looking at these agreements you may decide that you are on the right track and choose not to change anything.

So many people in the world are in a place of fear, it seems to be spreading almost an epidemic. I would like to offer you a few ways to let go of fear that have and are working for me. I feel that a few people getting out of fear can spread to help others start letting go of fear, bringing the world back to a more peaceful place.

When any of those fearful ideas or feelings pop up for you, take a minute to change how you feel, by saying thank you that everything is fine, that there is plenty of money, love of whatever your fear is. It will help you move out of the fear and bring the things you want to you.

This is quick and simple meditation to do on a fairly regular basis: sit down, close your eyes, take a few deep breaths to relax, then imagine a pipe going from the bottom of your spine to deep in the center of the earth. This pipe serves as an energetic grounding cord that gives you a place to release things you no longer need. As you sit with your eyes closed, allow any fear you have to start releasing down your grounding cord. Whatever fear you might have, fear of not having enough money, fear of not being loved, fear of failure or success. Simply allow the fear or fears to release from your body. This could take about 5 – 7 minutes. After you allow the fear to release, fill your self up with something good. Imagine a golden that comes in through the top of your head and fills you completely. The golden sun helps fill in the places where you held the fear so that the fear does not come back. Doing this simple meditation has changed my and many of my students lives. I would love to hear how it works for you.

It is Monday morning, and we are back from San Diego, my sons hand surgery went well. He has one permanent screw and two pins that will come out later. The doctor says once this is healed, his hand should be as good as new.

I am wondering what my spirit guides would like to talk about today.

Spirit Guides: This is a more personal message for Lexa that we hope she will not mind sharing. Lexa, we want to give you a nudge to get you back on track with eating healthy, drinking more water, walking for exercise, stretching, and MEDITATING (at least 20 minutes per day).  We know that you are not feeling as energized as usual and want to remind you how powerful the combination of these things we mentioned is to keep you charged up and happy. We know it feels that when you are busy, you don’t have time to do these things. We want you to know that doing them will make your day easier. You will have more energy, more clarity of mind, and a stronger spiritual connection. When you have your body, mind and spirit working together you can accomplish great things with great ease.

My son Cameron broke his hand and my husband and I are headed down to San Diego to be with him during his surgery and recovery. My first thought when he told me his hand was broken and that two bones had to be pinned back together was what an awful thing to have happened to him. My next thought was, maybe not, what is it about this experience that he needs to learn? I got the feeling that one thing he needed was to use his left hand to develop a new area of creativity. As I write this I am thinking maybe this is helping him know that he is not invincible and will be more cautious with his body. Maybe this experience is for others to learn from. The growth from this experience could prove to be huge.

There are so many times we experience what we think are bad things, sometimes really bad things. What I have learned is that the worst stuff that has happened to me has brought me the most growth, wisdom, and peace. Of course the realization of what an important and powerful experience I had came after the experience. What I am wondering is this, if we approach every experience put in front of us as a needed thing, and stop resisting and complaining about how bad it is, would the lesson be easier to learn? I know that I am going to try to remember to see life that way and I am can’t wait to see how much of a difference it makes in making my life easier.

I want to share what I have learned through meditation and giving intuitive readings as to one of the big reasons why we as spirits choose to take human bodies. We take human bodies to learn and embody unconditional love. My guides have shown me a huge ball of bright light/energy that seems to me to be the “whole” or God consciousness. They say we all start within this light/energy. When we are in the light we are completely enveloped and connected with unconditional love. We know exactly how it feels. It is complete and perfect. We have no expectations, no needs or wants. We feel perfectly content and wonderful. This is the same Godness or love that is available to all forms of life if we choose to use it. When we as an individual spirit decide we want to have our own experiences of unconditional love, with the help of our spiritual support group, we set up human lives to experience that love. Our little ball of light separates form the large whole and sets out on its own journey of finding unconditional love. We are never completely disconnected. We can always draw from the whole.  Unconditional love has many pieces or layers to it. To love unconditionally you have to overcome many obstacles. Here are some of the things I am aware that you have to conquer to get to unconditional love:

• You must learn not to judge others
• You must learn to forgive
• You must learn to trust
• You must learn faith
• You must learn joy and laughter
• You must learn community
• You must learn to be egoless

Many of the things you must learn can be very difficult. Take forgiveness, the lessons around forgiveness can seem cruel. It is easy to forgive someone for stepping on you toes, or being late to a lunch. But, how hard is it to forgive someone who hurts you deeply and repeatedly, especially when you have no control over their actions (A good example is an abused child)? How hard is it to forgive when you can’t even begin to imagine treating someone like that person treats or treated you? In other words, you have to have some really awful stuff happen to you to be forced into a very deep place of forgiving. Forgiving because you know you need to, not because you want to.

With each lesson you conquer, your ball of light grows brighter. When, after many lives in most cases, you reach unconditional love, your now huge fully developed ball of unconditional love/light returns to the whole. The whole becomes larger and more capable of supporting all life forms on their own path of unconditional love.

Spirit Guides:

As you bring in the New Year, we want to share with you some things you can do to have a more complete, comfortable year.

• Spend an appropriate amount of time with your friends and family. Call those people you have been meaning to catch up with. Spending time with people is the best way to learn your spiritual lesson of unconditional love.
• Reach out to create new friendships. The kind of friendship with no expectations.
• Find somewhere or someone to volunteer time with. Even if you choose to spend time on the phone talking with a lonely person with no family.
• Volunteer at least once this year to help feed the hungry. You will be amazed how much brighter your life looks.
• Take time to rest when you are tired, even if it is in the middle of the day. Twenty minutes of downtime will recharge you, making the rest of the day more efficient.
• Move your body, walking, jogging or running, it does not matter. Just move. Your body and mind will feel better.
• Say no when you don’t want to do something. The person will find someone else to do it.
• Meditate, meditate, meditate, even 10 minutes per day will make a difference in your overall peace of mind.
• Start each day by saying I LOVE MY LIFE and see how much more you start loving your life.

Your spiritual support group is always ready to talk about and/or guide you through anything you will let us help with. We look forward to being a bigger part of your life this year on a conscious level. Before you pick up the phone to call a friend for advice, ask us, see if it doesn’t help.